How to Build Positive Self Esteem in Kids, Free Affirmation Cards

For each negative interaction, we need five positive interactions to balance our emotions and confidence.

And it isn’t just an adult thing. Our kids . . .

Sure, its easy to have confidence when life is good.

But one negative interaction can quickly turn things upside down in your head, and the stinking thinking can creep in.

In fact for each negative interaction, we need five positive interactions to balance our emotions and confidence (Gottman).

This isn’t just an adult thing. Our kids have their own soundtracks in their heads, shaped by interactions and events in their day that even a parent might not be aware of.

So how do you help your kids bounce back faster from negative moments? Teach them how to use positive affirmations everyday to build their confidence.

This will help them to remember the positive things about themselves, and to stay focused on who they are beyond the negative interaction they experienced.

Princess Winnabelle, from the Smart Girl Fairy Tale Series, looks in the mirror every morning and recites, “I am strong, I am smart, I am fancy, I am fierce.”

What an empowering way to start the day for a child!

Princess Winnabelle and the Friendship Pie

I’ve put together a FREE .pdf of how to use positive affirmations with kids, as well as positive affirmation cards that you can print out and hang up.

Bonus, there is one page of blank cards for your child to write their own empowering affirmations.

Go out and raise emotionally resilient kids!

Get a copy of Princess Winnabelle and the Friendship Pie to read along with the activity!

Character Interview: A Chat with Princess Winnabelle from the Smart Girl Fairy Tale Series

Mollie: Was it hard to ask your friends for help when you made a big mistake with the Friendship Pies?

Winnabelle: Oh. You heard about that? Yeah that was a pretty big mess…

This fairy tale interview originally appeared at JanaBuchman.com. Check out Mollie’s Magical Tooth to meet Mollie, the interviewer and friend of Princess Winnabelle!

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Mollie: Hi Winnabelle!

Or shall I call you Princess Winnabelle? I’ve never met a princess before!

Winnabelle: You’re sweet. Winnabelle is fine.

M: I’m so excited to meet you! Tell me more about your kingdom! Do you have ice cream shops there?

W: Ice Cream. Who doesn’t love ice cream?! We actually make our own with a special recipe. You have to try it!

Anyways, back to the kingdom.

I live in the Land of Five Lagunas. It’s named after the five lakes there: Onyx Lake, Ruby Lake, Diamond Lake, Sapphire Lake, and Emerald Lake. It’s a very fancy place, filled with magic and fun!

M: Do you have a pet?

W: Funny you should ask. I recently got a pet UNICORN named Wish. As you can imagine, it was a challenge to learn how to care for a growing pet! You can read all about it in ‘Princess Winnabelle and the Pet Unicorn’ (releasing Fall 2020).

M: Oh, I love unicorns as well! They brought me to Magic Land when I visited it with Miss Pearlwirl. I’m sure you will have a lot of fun together! Does Wish have a stable or does he sleep in your room with you? I’m not sure how big bedrooms are in a castle!

W: We have a unicorn stable that Wish plays at every afternoon, but at bedtime he loves being near me.

I gave him a bed in my room, but he just outgrew it. I have to save up my allowance to get him a new one. I guess that’s what happens when animals are well cared for – they grow super fast!

M: I’ve heard you’re making friendship pies once a year. This sounds like a lovely idea on how to celebrate friendship! What else do you like to do with your friends?

W: My friends are the best. We do lots of fun stuff together, like sleepovers and talent shows!

As long as they’re around, we always come up with creative ideas so we’re never bored.

M: Was it hard for you to ask your friends for help when you lost track of time and jeopardized the making of the friendship pies? 

Oh, you heard about that? Yeah, that was a pretty big mess.

Thankfully, my friends are always there for me. With their help, I managed to make things right for the Queen. Afterwards we had a picnic, ate pie, and laughed until our bellies hurt!

I think it turned out alright 🙂

M: As a princess, are you nervous to take over the kingdom one day? 

W: Sure, a little. I make mistakes all the time. But every time I make a mistake or try something new, I am better prepared for whatever comes my way.

M: How will you rule your kingdom when it’s your turn? Is there anything you want to change?

W: Actually, the Queen is pretty amazing. She’s fair and kind. I hope I can rule just like her.

Oh wait . . . there is one thing I will change.

When I’m Queen everyone will wear tennis shoes with their fancy clothes!

We’ll be fancy on top, fast on the bottom!

M: You’re a pretty cool princess, I like that you’re smart and strong! I always thought princesses need to follow etiquettes and weren’t allowed to climb on trees or roll down hills. Do you hear this often?

W: Yes! People are always so surprised to meet a princess that doesn’t mind getting dirty and loves solving challenging problems. The Queen often reminds me that she’s preparing me to take over the kingdom one day, and I have a lot to learn.

I learn best by trying things, making mistakes, and improving for next time. But, I ALWAYS have a lot of fun in the process.

M: Thank you so much for spending time with me, Winnabelle! I have a treehouse in our backyard, it’s not as big as a castle but I have all my treasures in it. Wanna see? Let’s go and climb up another tree!

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